Learning to ‘Sync Within’

Years ago, when I was in search of meditative ways to make change in my life, I came into contact with Kerstin Fehn. I was amazed by her approach to growth – through guided visualisation, she opened up my mind to different ways in which you can reach goals.

It was more than that though. There was something harmonic and peaceful – yet powerful – about the way her meditations worked. It perhaps helps that she is an intuitive soul, and you feel like she’s tuning into your energy. It’s no surprise she’s in demand for intuitive readings, where she focuses on helping a client create the change they desire.

I spoke to her about how she helps people in her Sync Within practice, where she practises hypnotherapy as well as a unique form of guided visualisation.

Sync Within

What is your business about in a nutshell?

Guidance, meditation and hypnosis.

You do hypnotherapy – can you explain what this is?

Hypnotherapy is moving past your conscious mind and your self-criticism and allowing changes to take place at a subconscious or deeper level. Basically it’s a solution-based therapy, as opposed to a conscious talk therapy.

Can you help people understand the issues they’re dealing with?

As a hypnotherapist, it depends on what level of change that person wants as to whether I would do that, or whether I’d refer them to having a psychotherapist or psychologist treatment first. There are a lot of psychologists and psychotherapists who do hypnosis as a combined package. I’m specialising in the change itself.

So you can uncover what and where they need change?

What I can do is uncover what they need, and that Sync Within process, in an analytical way going through the phases, uncovers where the problem’s lodged.

Now if it’s in their past in their mind, in their memories in a significantly painful way or with a mental condition, then I would refer them on to someone who specialises in that, like a psychologist or a psychotherapist. However, if it’s habit, change with a normal state of mind, I can definitely treat that.

Someone with a psych background would probably use a lot of regressive therapy; there’s also progressive hypnotherapy. Most practitioners are good at doing both.

I offer a solution-based therapy that’s progressive. Because of my background of having been an intuitive consultant for almost 20 years, it means I’ve also seen a lot of people stuck in their patterns that can easily be exchanged for productive patterns. They have to want the change. Most of the time it’s not necessary to go backwards, to regress. Often it’s just a change that’s progressive.

What of a client has come to you needing to understand the past?

That’s okay if it’s progressive at the same time. So a hypnotherapist will unlock that and bring it forwards. Sync Within can look backwards to the degree of what is there, but not be immersed it. So it doesn’t bring up your fears and your pain from the past, it just acknowledges them. Sometimes that’s enough. Also replacing it, so not just looking at it.

The common problems are behaviours. Most people have difficulty moving on from a relationship where they’ve invested more than the other person. So they get stuck in a pattern of feeling unworthy, low self-esteem and just plain confusion because there’s no communication. So most of the problems are communication based.

The other side of the coin is, not that that just affects their relationships, but it also affects what they dare to do in their life. So often people will pigeonhole themselves, or society’s values will pigeonhole people at a certain level. So it’s about self-belief, that’s what keeps coming up.

And in relationships and career, and anything in the world really, we can’t change what’s going on around us, but we can change how much worth we give ourselves and therefore open up consciousness and receive more. Basically take the blinkers off. That’s why I believe in progression. People need a bit of help believing in themselves often.

The common problems are behaviours. Most people have difficulty moving on from a relationship where they’ve invested more than the other person. So they get stuck in a pattern of feeling unworthy, low self-esteem and just plain confusion because there’s no communication. So most of the problems are communication based.

Is it about having courage as well?

It is very universal, we are very hard on ourselves. In the 80-90s there was a big move forward, with the idea that you can have anything if you try hard enough. That’s the most recent belief or value that’s societal-based, and that is where people feel low self-esteem if they haven’t achieved certain things by certain ages, for example. It’s also in your family and your culture, but across Western society, there’s a big drive to setting in and achieving goals.

Hypnotherapy in those days went towards that. So you’d have people like Anthony Robbins, who’s still inspirational, but it’s not all about that.

These days what we’re learning is that it’s actually really important to open up compassion for ourselves.

There are other people. One example is Oliver Lockert, French hynoptherapist. He does humanistic hypnotherapy and I’m influenced a lot by that. So it’s taking power for yourself internally, but it’s based on acceptance of yourself and not just pushing forwards.

Do they develop techniques as a result, which equip them to deal with the world?

It can do, that depends on the person and their awareness. That’s why hypnotherapy is based on being specific for, not just the problem, but a good hypnotherapist will make it specific to the person, their level of awareness and where the problem is lodged in their awareness.

The kind of person who enjoys having a wide awareness, for example, will enjoy having tools they will be able to apply to different areas of their life.

Is Sync Within tweaking mainstream hypnotherapy?

Mine would be a visual instead of neuro lingusitic programming, it’s actually neuro visual programming, using various visual archetypes that have been distilled from a vast amount of well-tested theories and knowledge out there.

But it’s actually multi-sensory, and I’m finding that my method is just one of many emerging methods. I think it’s the way people are going.

The idea is that they add layers to a new goal or a new set of values, but make it easier to integrate into the subconscious mind and have the subconscious mind accept them, because archetypes, vision, sensory input is the language of the subconscious part of the mind. So they provide a template, Sync Within provides a template to enable it to work easily.

What of the skeptics?

Hypnotherapy has been tested. The effectiveness of hypnosis has been tested and there are results available. Even though it’s value and belief changing, it doesn’t rely on believing in this method because the effects have been proven.

The idea is that they add layers to a new goal or a new set of values, but make it easier to integrate into the subconscious mind and have the subconscious mind accept them, because archetypes, vision, sensory input is the language of the subconscious part of the mind. So they provide a template, Sync Within provides a template to enable it to work easily.

How important is intuition in this process?

Hypnotherapy is the deeper level, and then there’s other levels. Creative visualisation is a lighter layer. Sync Within’s not just hypnotherapy, it’s actually also using creative visualisation, which is a conscious mind-based affirmation system, and some people respond better to that.

So that depends on the person. And so my intuition, when something comes to me, we work with my intuition and the client’s intuition to find out the scope of the problem. So intuition’s important with it to understand how to use it, but the actual method itself is results-based from past results. It’s not all intuitive, it’s actually based in solid background.

How many sessions do people generally require?

It depends on the person and their problem, and how deep-seated it is. With something like quitting smoking, that can be done in one session. Because it’s often more effective to replace negative habits with positive habits in one go, because the sub-conscious mind, and the conscious mind together, will feel that it’s been done. Whereas something that is progressive, for example confidence and self-esteem, sports and job performance, these sort of issues are best off being worked on over a series of therapy.

So can you actually change someone?

You can’t change someone. Deep-seated values won’t change. And you’re always in control because hypnosis … now the humanistic, more progressive, modern hypnotherapy is in between these two for effect, because sometimes it helps to do something consciously and sometimes subconsciously. But the person is put in control.

Whenever you’re in hypnosis, you are in control. A hypnotic trance is very similar to when you’re just about to fall asleep in front of the television for example. You can let yourself drift off or, if you needed to get up and get a glass of water, you could easily get out of that yourself and walk off.

And that’s what you can do with hypnosis as well. So people think they’re asleep but they’re not. It’s pre-sleep.

And creative visualisation is lighter than that even, it’s just different variations of relaxation, but always working with the person.

In Sync Within, why I use colours and textures is because people will remember more easily than a string of events. Music works like that too, it can help you remember things. If you remember a song that was around when you were a child, you remember events from that time. Smells do that, too.

I’m bringing in aromatherapy to it as well, and music. But there are certain beats in music that produce a level of receptivity in your brain. Some people fear that though on its own.

The new style of hypnotherapy is not about mind control only, it’s actually bringing mind, body and heart all in together, and spirit. So that you’re acknowledging. It’s profound, and it’s profound changes, but a lot of it starts with self-acceptance, and then what goals come out of that.

Do you feel responsibility towards the client?

Yes, very much, and a lot of the hypnotherapy, the initial session we do is free because it gives people a chance to know what hypnosis is. It builds up trust together and rapport, but also sometimes that may be why people take a little longer and others don’t, because they have to be able to trust themselves as well to accept it.

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